What started as a tense moment on Vancouver’s SkyTrain earlier this month ended in a lesson about the benefits of compassion and not judging those around us.
The story started when a man boarded a train car in Vancouver and began swearing and “acting really aggressively,” according to fellow commuters. Everyone was scared at first, believing that the man was likely suffering from a mental illness or drug abuse. In what has since been described as an ‘incredible display of humanity,’ a 70-year-old woman walked over and reached out her hand to the man, despite his aggressive behavior and profanity. She tightly gripped his hand until he calmed down and sat next to her, with tears in his eyes. For nearly 20 minutes the woman sat with him, her touch and presence calming him, until he got off at his stop, saying only “thanks grandma.”
The whole time she didn’t let go.
Afterwards the woman, a mother of two sons of similar age to the enraged man, said, “He just needed someone to touch.”
A fellow commuter who witnessed the touching display, Ehab Taha, was so moved by the incident he posted the story on Facebook, and called for people to “not fear or judge the stranger on the train: life does not provide equal welfare for all its residents.”
Indeed, life is not equal and the woman recognized the situation for what it was: A fellow human being in desperate need of compassion. Perhaps as compelling as her kindness was the woman’s ability to recognize how a seemingly small gesture, the touch of another person, could diffuse such a potentially hostile situation. After all, the man had a pen in his hand that could have become a weapon. Without regard for her own safety, she did something that quite possibly saved lives that day – she reached for his hand to comfort him in his time of distress.
From the time we are small children we recognize that both good and bad things happen in life. While some things can be chalked up to bad luck, others may be brought on by our own willful and ill-advised acts. Regardless of what brought that man to his state of despair that day on the train, a kind, loving gesture pulled him back from the brink.
It’s reassuring to know that whatever paths our lives happen to be on – whether, as Ignatius J. Reilly believes, our wheel of fortune is on an upswing or a downswing - there are people out there like the 70-year-old woman who instinctively know all we might need is a comforting touch.
It’s important to go through our daily lives remembering that many people endure hardships the rest of us are completely oblivious to. People struggle.
Maybe kindness is all we need in this world. And maybe, just maybe, no simple gesture is ever too small.
So here’s to the unnamed woman who touched one man and wound up touching us all.
For sports, let the players decide if risk worth reward
Most Americans enjoyed a fine Super Bowl game Sunday, watching Peyton Manning (with retirement possible) go out a winner after a long and classy career.
Even if you were for the Panthers, you’ve got to admire Manning. No one wants to think about Peyton winding up with severe brain issues because of his time in football, like Kenny “The Snake” Stabler or Junior Seau, former stars left with mental problems due to repeated blows to the head.
With so much attention on sports concussions and new research showing how widespread and debilitating the repeated blows to the head are, you can’t help but worry about Peyton. The NFL has said that nearly one-third of its retired players will experience brain damage later in life, according to recent research.
The NFL appears to be taking head shots seriously with players required to sit out until they can pass a concussion protocol following any hard shot to the helmet. There were definitely cases where star players had to remain on the bench when they were needed, so it looks like they are serious about enforcement.
There have been calls to outlaw football over player health issues. But this isn’t the first time the game has come under the microscope for injuries. In 1905, President Theodore Roosevelt got involved as he was a fan of the game. Roosevelt used his office to mandate some rules after 19 deaths came on the field in 1905 among high school, college and the adult games. That led to the elimination of open fighting in the pile-ups and using professional brawlers as ringers in college games.
It’s hard to see how the game can be made much safer than it is now, but by all means the NFL should diligently study it. Football, with players weighing well beyond 270 pounds who can still run ridiculously fast to bring down other players, is clearly a risky game. In the early years, the players, coaches and team owners had no way of knowing how serious the repeated head shots could be later in life. That has changed with more medical knowledge.
Let’s also keep in mind that football is not required at any level and those who make the pros are well compensated. The average NFL player earns over $1 million per year. But more telling is the practice squad players who never make highlight reels are guaranteed a minimum of $6,600 per week.
This is not a case of protecting coal miners just scraping by, trying to feed their families.
The risks are known and it’s a personal choice to play at any level and one where the payoff may justify the risk for professionals. We hope the NFL does all they can to protect the players, but ultimately the decision to play should be left to the players.
Pastor’s Protection bill pure political posturing
By Dan Pool, Editor
To State Rep. Rick Jasperse:
I am publicly asking you to introduce legislation that will protect news reporters from being forced to eat squirrel meat while in the course of their work.
I know this is a grave concern of many of us -- that we may be at some gathering in the line of work and be presented with an objectionable dish of squirrel and feel that we are compelled by law or civil penalty to consume the varmint.
Now please note that your bill should not infringe on our right to eat squirrel meat if we feel that is to our liking, as we would still maintain our rights to decide.
I got the idea for this bill from reading about the Pastor’s Protection bill that is currently being heard under the Gold Dome in response to legalized gay marriage.
As I am sure you are aware that bill actually doesn’t do anything but it sure sounds good for politicking around the state, being able to say you are a strong supporter of protecting religious rights as evidenced by your work on a bill that didn’t have any measureable effect.
As Rep. Tanner of Dawsonville and Speaker Ralston have both said in some of their press comments, the bill doesn’t offer any more protection but is needed to “reassure” pastors they would never have to perform a ceremony they didn’t want to – as though there were gay men or women who might barge into a church and demand to be married by a preacher who didn’t like them or their lifestyle.
True, some marriages get off to worse starts, but the scenario is pretty farfetched that a preacher would be forced to show Jesus’ love where he has open hostility.
And when you see a politician talking about how they saved religious rights, ask them what they really did.
Since it was signed into law in 2010, the Affordable Care Act (ACA) or Obamacare, has been constantly assailed.
There are real objections to the program, but politics clearly drove some of the backlash.
Ultimately, time will tell the economic impact of the ACA, described as the biggest change in American healthcare since in 1965. Maybe we will come to see that it has merit or maybe we will see fit to repeal it. The fact that it is the subject of little discussion in the ongoing presidential campaign could signal a growing acceptance.
In any event, the furor over the plan to expand insurance to millions of Americans has been a disservice to those who could actually benefit from it: The working poor, whom we strongly urge to investigate the opportunity now offered for healthcare.
You can argue politics all day long but if you have a pre-existing condition or have never been able to afford proper healthcare for your family, the ACA has opened a new door.
Hearing constantly how big forces were hard at work to repeal it or that it is filled glitches or because it came from a president who is widely disliked may have kept many from taking a look at what it really does for them.
Even if you share 100 anti-Obama Facebook posts every day, you may find the ACA to your family’s financial and medical advantage.
There are a couple of ways people can learn more and there is a deadline of January 31st to join during Open Enrollment for this year.
First you can go straight to healthcare.gov and see for yourself.
Second, there will be a “certified navigator” at the library January 28th to help you.
Finally, the well respected Good Samaritan Health and Wellness Clinic in Jasper has an employee, Myrna Denson, with the title “assister” and that is what she does. Good Sam does this at no cost to help them better provide healthcare to the community.
According to the people at Good Sam, there are tangible benefits of having this insurance if you were formerly uninsured.
While they are sticking to their mission statement of not turning anyone away, Good Sam leaders stress that when it comes to major medical issues (heart attack, cancer, surgery) there is a limit to what they can provide. That’s where the insurance comes in.
Certified Navigator Vincent Spann, who will be at the library Thursday, described it more bluntly, “If you and your family are in a horrible car wreck and everyone is injured, you will need this [if you don’t already have insurance].” He went on to state that bankruptcies are often tied to unexpected medical bills.
There are numerous plan options, exemptions for income, tax credits, different deductibles and different monthly bills. Without a person’s particulars, it’s hard to give a cost. Spann found a hypothetical plan during a Progress interview that would cost $50 a month to handle major medical catastrophes. There is also access to some free benefits for pregnant women and newborns.
Good Sam emphasizes there are some great low-cost ways to insure children.
Good Sam’s Denson said she has seen many families who didn’t realize this coverage is available.
Spann said he finds people who don’t want insurance, who want to “risk it,” as the biggest reason more people aren’t signing up.
We suspect in addition to risking it, there are people who have gotten by without insurance for years by avoiding checkups, relying on free clinics and emergency rooms that will send bills to people who have no intention to pay them. But with new penalties for not getting coverage, it makes sense to look at your options.
As we began by saying, this isn’t an endorsement of Obamacare, but it is an encouragement for readers to find out if it’s right for them.
See ad on this page for information on the library sign up or contact Good Sam (706) 253-4673.
A gun raffle? Sell us a ticket
Last week some media in Atlanta lacking any better firearm related story in the metro area chose to feature a raffle by our PHS wrestling team booster club which had a Glock handgun as the main prize.
Needless to say this produced a serious surge in ticket sales, even though the big city media approached this story as a case of look what the gun nuts up in the mountains are doing.
We didn’t do a story on it, mainly because we don’t see any big deal or problem with it– it’s not like they were giving away a free trip to a strip club or a bag of weed.
A Glock handgun is a completely legal and very desirable prize to many people here and the ticket itself states that the winner must meet age and other requirements.
Any fears that the school was going to turn over a loaded handgun to a student on school grounds is ludicrous. In the sake of clarity, it should further be noted that booster clubs are all independent and the decision was solely that of the club, not the district as a whole.
The choice of this prize shows the organizers of the raffle likely got a deal on the pistol and have a good knowledge of their market. They are certainly not alone in choosing guns to raffle off. From the yearly Ducks Unlimited to the local GOP to Veterans groups, firearms are pretty standard fare for prizes.
And as far as we are aware, none of these guns has ever been put to misuse.
There may be firearm violence issues in America, but they sure don’t come from gun
raffles to benefit youth sports.
Flat Earthers can take a hike
Some times you just wonder if all intelligence has gone out the window. In what became a very public debate last week B.o.B., a famous rapper, and astrophysicist Neil deGrasse Tyson got into a spat over whether the earth is round or flat.
B.o.B. first argued for the flat position with his direct observation – looks flat to me is essentially what he said
Dr. Tyson rebutted from a scientific background, explaining the optics that make the horizon look flat and how we are very small beings on a very large curved object and thus don’t see the curvature.
The rapper then applied a classic move put forth by debaters with losing positions, lack of evidence, or people who simply don’t want their views questioned by anyone with facts – it’s a conspiracy against me. When pressed by science, B.o.B. alerted his 2.3 million online followers that he was going up against the “greatest liars” in history, to explain why his arguments were being challenged.
There are always nuts out there, flat-earth believers, or whatever other conspiracy theory of the day is trending online.
But what is truly disappointing and frightening is how many people voiced support for the rapper over the scientist in this debate and how effectively they were able to circle the wagons behind the idea that they were unmasking a great conspiracy and injustice. Maybe some of the supporters were being sarcastic or enjoying the silliness of arguing that the world is flat. It would certainly be comforting to think they were joking rather than actually jumping on a flat earth bandwagon. But one worries that too many of the people simply believed what they were told by someone they recognized as the more famous person in the debate.
The saying from a commercial, “it must be true I saw it on the internet,” gets a fair amount of play in sarcastic circles. Exercise caution when deciphering outrageous claims online.
Tyson himself explained his decision to join the fray as this, “There's a growing anti-intellectual strain in this country. It may be the beginning of the end of our informed democracy."
After the commissioners suddenly cut short efforts to create a special events ordinance last week, three things became pretty clear.
1.The idea of requiring gatherings of as few as 50 people to pay $100 and register was far too draconian a suggestion.
2.The aborted effort was a disservice to the county as no clear procedures are in place.
3.When the going got heated, our elected three-person board of commissioners ran for cover, instead of leading.
The county’s land development officer mis-stepped by tossing out the idea that parties of as few as 50 people might need a permit.
But, he didn’t err that badly as it was plainly pointed out this was the first idea to get the ball rolling, not something intended as a final draft.
There were at least two more meetings scheduled to take input on the proposal.
The attendee threshold could have been raised to 200 or 500 or 1,000 or changed entirely to just apply to events that charge people. Only governing events that have a commercial component would have appeased many of the critics worrying about whether their get-togethers would fall under the watch of government.
But just because the public firmly rejected the idea of regulating 50-person gatherings, doesn’t mean we don’t need a special events ordinance.
The commissioners ran scared at a time they should have been leaders.
The planning director’s original rationale for the ordinance was sound - public safety personnel and the public in general need advance notice when a large event is on the horizon.
What the issue devolved into is a vague state where it is unclear if, or when, any regulations govern large public gatherings. It was noted special events might be best handled on a case-by-case basis. That idea sounds good but is too arbitrary; case-by-case based on what? The whims of the commissioners?
Planning commission chair Bill Cagle responded to several questions at their stalled hearing by saying that common sense and what is “reasonable” would come into play with special events.
He noted that it was common sense that live bands would disturb people if they were still rocking after 10 p.m. And for people in rural areas over 30 years of age that is very reasonable, but ask a group of 20 year olds attending a wedding what time they think the party should stop and we suspect that 10 p.m. would be a little early.
At the commissioners meeting and planning commission, the county attempted to pass off their current disturbing-the-peace codes as sufficient for all purposes.
Wrong codes and wrong answer. Of the 18 points covered in the disorderly conduct statues, only one seems applicable to a general event. The other 17 address crimes like public fighting, misleading 911 operators and using vulgar language. The one that does apply addresses noise. But the county doesn’t have a genuine noise ordinance so it’s tough to say when or how it would be applied.
The code says that creating loud noises which disturb or interfere with the peace and tranquility of the public is a violation.
Would a single blast of fireworks violate this? Would a church singing at a sunrise service? The description is so broad that children on a playground might constitute a violation.
One member of the public hit the nail on the head when he asked during the planning commission meeting how these codes that mainly address “hooligans” are going to apply to a big wedding?
They don’t. They were never intended to. That is why the land development officer had been studying event ordinances in surrounding counties and the city of Blue Ridge.
That process, unfortunately, was squelched. Recently at a dinner, two of the commissioners said they had heard all they wanted to about this subject. They may not want to hear about it any more but our prediction is that this party hasn’t reached its cut off time yet.