In the vein of Jon Stewart’s The Daily Show, which features “fake” news fashioned with humor, The Onion is an online news parody whose writers come up with laugh out loud ‘non’ news that may be more like the real thing than we want to imagine.
Last week the fake news source ran a ‘story’ reporting that out of the 950 million active Facebook users, “only four derive pleasure of any kind from the popular networking website.” Citing a “comprehensive and groundbreaking study,” they say that despite the hordes of people who venture to Facebook multiple times a day, most do so with no joy and, in fact, “feel a profound sense of hopelessness and despair upon logging in.”
The Onion reported in jest, that all but four Facebook users are “overpowered by a deep, nameless sadness when exposed to the site,” and that “the vast majority of human beings tend to become depressed when they see the past five years of their life summarized right there in front of them in a sad little timeline,” but more and more real studies are showing that the Onion writers weren’t pulling this story from thin air.
A recent study - a real one - shows that Facebook users believe others have happier lives than they really do. Seeing “friends” with status updates saying they’re enjoying a day off, vacationing in remote locales, or dining out while surrounded by throngs of friends, tends to make us think our lives don’t stack up. The more time we spend on social networking sites, the more we see our own lives as sad by comparison.
Since 2004, over 125 billion friendship connections have been created on Facebook. With two billion “likes” a day and one billion comments, Facebook stimulates the release of chemicals in our brains that make us feel good. Conversely, it can fool us into thinking everyone else is happier than we are, ultimately making us feel sadder about our own lives. Whether intentionally stretching the truth or boasting just a touch, people put their best faces forward on Facebook.
And casual profile cruisers should keep that in mind, never judging the happiness of others through their status updates and pictures. The old saying, “Don’t judge a book by its cover” should be amended to “Don’t judge a person’s happiness by their status update.”
According to the real study, even when we know that the image projected by our friends is not always accurate, those photos of happy people are still influential and tend to be the thing that pops into our minds when we think of our Facebook friends. This is what can leave the impression that others are happier than we are, which can lead to bitterness or dissatisfaction with our own lives.
If we are honest with ourselves, doesn’t Facebook ultimately just steal our time away from other, more important parts of our lives?
Recently, Toyota ran a funny commercial for its Venza model, which poked fun at college-age kids who feel sorry for their parents because they only have 19 Facebook friends. While the student is at home alone, glued to the computer, chatting with her 600-plus “friends,” her parents are out enjoying life with flesh-and-blood people.
At this point in time Facebook is practically ubiquitous, so what can really be done about these issues? It may take more than consciously knowing other people aren’t always happy just because their pictures look that way, or because their status updates say they are loving life. We need to spend more time figuring out what it is that makes for a happy and fulfilling life for ourselves, and devote real time and energy to those things, rather than creating a happy image on Facebook.
In the South we may have been taught to shy away from talk about money and religion, but when it comes to the religious views of American presidential candidates their ideas about faith should be front and center.
This November’s presidential election will mark the first in American history where there are no white traditional Protestants on the ballot. There are two Catholic candidates for vice president, a Mormon on the republican ticket for president and an African-American mainline Protestant for the democrats. More than being attached to a particular denomination and its platform of beliefs, those seeking elected offices should be candid with voters about their personal religious ideas. If they are sincere about those beliefs and not just giving it lip service for the benefit of wooing voters, it shapes them politically.
Religion matters. And it matters in politics. Our ideas about the world are shaped through our religious beliefs and those aspiring to the Oval Office shape public policy. Before voters cast their ballots we need to know everything we can about a candidate. Just like we should ask whether Obama or Romney are members of private clubs or extremist groups or have particular affections for dog racing, we need to know as much as about their religion as we do their stance on healthcare, the job market, or government spending.
Unlike many countries, the United States has a long history of separation of church and state. In 1802, founding father Thomas Jefferson wrote “religion is a matter which lies solely between Man and his God, that he owes account to none other for his faith or his worship”.
America is a beacon of religious freedom and the people we elect to high office should uphold those rights at all costs, but their personal religious identity impacts their views on social platforms that we care about.
It’s not unconstitutional for citizens to ask to be informed on this aspect of their lives just as we are their marriages, where they went to school and whether they grew up rich, poor or somewhere in between. All these factors mold them into the candidates they’ve become and have profound influence on their decisions. Before we decide whom to entrust with the highest office in the land we have a right to know about their religious views.
Romney and Obama’s views on faith, more than their particular denomination, moved from the private realm into the realm of public scrutiny when they accepted their party’s nominations in recent weeks. Both candidates say they are heavily influenced by their faith but they haven’t told us how that translates into their politics.
We know Romney is a Mormon but how does that affect his political views? Maybe there is something in particular about his Mormon faith that would make him a stellar president but he needs to tell us what that is.
Obama, who joined the United Church of Christ in his 20s, has said he reads the Bible almost daily, and that his support of policies for the underprivileged stems from the “ethics Jesus Christ taught,” but his blend of traditional Christianity and progressive social values still remains a mystery.
A recent study of voting patterns in Congress found that legislators follow ideology and party affiliation, no matter what their religion, and a 2008 Pew study found that 44 percent of Americans have changed faiths at least once. We need to look beyond denominational lines to what a candidate’s faith means to them personally.
Anti-Catholicism almost kept John F. Kennedy out of the White House in 1960 and former presidents Jimmy Carter and Bill Clinton were Southern Baptists, but Evangelicals opposed their nominations. It’s not about a denomination but about how religion shapes their character and belief system.
Religion is an intensely personal thing but, before a candidate finds himself occupying the West Wing, it should become a part of public domain.
It used to be that in any southern town the most anticipated event was Friday night football, regardless of whether or not you had a kid involved in the game.
It's fun to have everyone gather to cheer on the home team, and even better if it happens to be the week our team is duking it out for bragging rights against a hated rival. We, in the south, love our football and we love sports in general.
But our county recreation department hasn’t offered youth football in 20 years.
Now, the Jasper Youth Sports Association boasts over 300 kids playing football and cheering this fall. JYSA also has a competitive spring traveling baseball team, tumbling classes, and is expanding into a wrestling program.
With the successful Jasper Youth Sports Association, the opportunity for the county to host football in their park and enjoy the packed stands and busy concession booths the sport brings is gone.
To borrow a saying, “If you build it, they will come, but if you don’t have it, they will go elsewhere.”
Although the county does have a soccer league, another group, Mountain City Soccer, sprung up when the recreation department wouldn't get behind soccer development. Mountain City Soccer now has more than 150 kids playing in a fall soccer league, despite the county's concurrent program. Similarly, the local swim team, with more than 80 swimmers each summer, is run by a coach who developed her own program and is unaffiliated with the recreation department. A few years ago First Christian Church started sponsoring Upward sports with leagues in basketball, cheerleading and soccer.
It’s a shame that kids had to go to other places to fill needs, as the loss of players hastens the decline in county programs. Less than five years ago, opening day for softball/baseball saw 800-plus kids in the players’ parade, but by last spring that number diminished to almost half that.
These shortcomings of the recreation program here most certainly extend way back before the last director was hired and fired. But as long as the county sees fit to make a change in direction, let’s make a big one, a complete overhaul. As long as there will be a new director, we urge the county to rebuild the parks/recreation from the ground up.
There was much more wrong with the program than a single director, and bringing our county’s parks up to speed isn’t going to be corrected by adding just one new face. It will start with dedication from a county government that realizes the value of having parks and programs here that are at least on par with neighboring counties.
Even though we don't have the financial resources of counties to the south, and though Pickens starts well behind counties to the north in park facilities, new efforts in recreation will pay off.
And this isn’t a plea for spending money on new gyms and fields. It’s a call for creative thinking about how to rejuvenate the program. Consider that Cherokee County boasts an array of sports and activities for kids, from fencing and yoga to dance classes, flag football, wiffle ball, and running and walking groups. We have facilities for all those offerings.
And these sports are not just for kids. People of all ages need recreation and the county should encourage adults and seniors to get busy with organized activities and classes as well. It’s hard to get taxpayers on board for recreation unless we show them there is something for people besides basketball players in the gyms.
Sometimes it doesn't take more money, just ingenuity and the desire to get it done. Let’s throw for the end zone when we make this change.
Gratitude is defined as a feeling of thankfulness or appreciation. Being grateful makes us aware of the good things in our lives and recent mental health studies are discovering the link between gratitude and what it can do for us – better sleep and better attitudes.
But are we thankful enough?
How many of us spend time considering how blessed we are? As we go through our sometimes mundane daily activities do we reflect on all the good things in our lives or do we take them for granted without much consideration at all? We’re guessing the latter. It’s easy to do - focusing on our to-do list, which never seems to shorten, or about the bills coming up.
Last year researchers discovered links to better sleep among grateful people. A study by a psychology professor published in Applied Psychology: Health and Well-Being reported that writing in a gratitude journal for 15 minutes every evening helped students worry less at bedtime and sleep longer and better afterward.
Apparently when we focus on the good things in our lives, however minor they may seem, it gives us an overall feeling of well-being and happiness. No more glass half empty.
But it’s not just about being grateful in our head, we must express it as well. It’s nice to think about how lucky we are to live in a beautiful town, or happy that our children go to safe schools, but to really derive the benefits of a grateful life we should express it to others.
The people around us matter and it’s important for us to let them know that the cupcake they surprised us with on a rainy Monday afternoon meant something special to us.
We can be quickly reminded of the wonderful things in our lives when we see someone who doesn’t have the same things we do. We become conscious of being grateful for our parents when we see someone who lost theirs, or thankful for our vision when we know a blind person and the difficulties they face.
Many of us might not think of our jobs as something to be grateful for - of course in this economy maybe we do - but they give us the means to buy food to sustain us and shelter our families.
When faced with the question, “What are you thankful for?” we are easily reminded of the good things in our life - friends, family, laughter, or a place to call home - but we too should know that adversity is also a cause for gratitude. That enemy who helped us uncover our blind spots so we could become a better person, the boy who broke our heart in college but who ultimately helped us mature, and the plethora of mistakes that make up our lives and improved us along the way, all combine to form the great human experience called life. For that we should be grateful.
Although we may have ups and downs, trials and triumphs throughout our lives, there’s always something for which to be grateful.
Remember those things and you might just have a better night’s sleep tonight.
Harry Potter and his magic wand have taken a back seat to Katniss Everdeen and her bow and arrow as Amazon announced last week that “The Hunger Games” trilogy has now outsold all seven of J.K. Rowling’s series about the boy wizard.
How can books whose premise that a central government, in retaliation for an uprising 75 years ago, randomly picks boys and girls aged 12-18 once a year and forces them into a battle to the death surpass in sales one of the biggest cultural icons of the past decade? (Admittedly, the final Harry Potter movies stunk it up worse than the final Star Wars films.)
When the Harry Potter series made its debut in 1997, a decade before The Games, there was outrage and book bannings across the nation because of its content. Critics said the first book, Harry Potter and the Philospher’s Stone, contained Satanic subtexts because of the wizardy while supporters likened the books to fairy tales like Cinderella. As the series progressed and the tone turned darker, more debate ensued about whether children should be allowed to read them.
As of last year, J.K. Rowling’s magical creation had sold 450 million copies. Not too bad considering the opposition to it or maybe because of it. Adults never seem to learn that when you tell kids something is bad for them, it only increases their enthusiasm for it.
Enter The Hunger Games series, which includes the original book plus Catching Fire and Mockingjay.
In The Hunger Games, the kids aren’t just forced to compete against each other in schoolyard games like Quidditch as in the Potter series, they are made to knife or bludgeon each other to death in their post-apolcalyptic nation Panem, where the countries of North America once existed.
And what do these kids’ parents, aunts, uncles, and neighbors do? Sit back and enjoy the show. The whole event is televised for all to watch. Sure it’s bad for the 24 kids chosen each year for The Games but hey it’s all good entertainment, right?
Maybe, like Harry Potter, the books have more to say about us than we realize. Are we really the type of society to sit back and watch while our government does the unthinkable right in front of our eyes, even forcing active participation? Do we enjoy seeing the devastation wrought when people don’t stand up when our neighbors’ rights are thrown over?
In The Hunger Games, the “show’s producers” insert obstacles into the game to make it more entertaining for the “at-home” audience. The horrors unleashed on the players during the Games - the wolf-like creatures called Wolf Muttations, and Tracker Jackers, genetically-altered wasps trained to attack anyone who disturbs their nest - just made for better story.
Perhaps The Hunger Games aren’t all that different from the reality show Survivor (except the death part, of course) or Keeping Up with the Kardashians. As long as it’s entertainment we’re all good.
But, it still strikes us as telling that a decade ago libraries were banning a mostly-innocent tale of magic wands and haunted castles and to date no one has uttered a peep about a popular book series with a plot so dark that if a student turned in a plot-synopsis for an essay, they would be shuttled off to the school shrink.
The question is: have adults finally given up worrying about what kids read or have we all turned a little darker?
We’ll ponder that one while we take a break from reading Fifty Shades of Grey, which is also bounding up the all-time best-seller list.